In a previous blog, I gave three things to look for in a narcissist when trying to figure out if they are just playing you. It’s easy to be deceived by a narcissist. After all, deception and games are what they are the best at. But once you’ve left the relationship and finally been relieved of their grasp on you, is should seem as though you’re done being played with. Unfortunately, this might not be the case. Narcissists will play you for as long as they can.
Once you’ve gotten out of the relationship, here are 3 more signs to look for to tell if you’re still being played by the narcissist:
- They are hypocritical – A narcissist might be posting all over social media, saying you did abusive things and complaining about certain things you did that they didn’t like, when in reality, they were the ones being abusive and doing all the things to you that they are now claiming you did, even though it’s not true.
- They play people against each other – if there is more than one person involved, the narcissist might begin to spread rumors and get them to turn on one another so that the narcissist looks like the better person.
- They only come to you when they need something – Once you have broken up, the narcissist might actually back down and want nothing to do with you ever again. Until they need something. This could be money, a favor, or something else. Whatever it is, it’s for their own personal benefit, and they’re using you to get it.
As you can see, there are lots of ways that a narcissist will play you, especially if you let them keep going with it. Learn the warning signs and don’t let them get away with trying to play you any longer.