If you know a narcissist, you know that they can be difficult to understand, due to their volatile personality. They tend to go from one extreme to another pretty quickly, and this can make it hard to keep up with them. In one of my last blogs, we talked about how and why narcissists act superior – why they think they are better and deserve better than everyone one else around them. But this act that they put on actually stems from low self esteem and a dependency on needing constant validation to make them feel better about themselves.
And they feed off of you to get that validation.
So if a narcissist needs you to help them feel that they are actually worth something, why would they want to then discard you? You are a good supply, and you give them everything they need to thrive, so even when you are giving them everything they want and ask for, why do they still want to destroy you and scare you away?
The answer is simple. They are out to destroy. Narcissists don’t know love or trust, so they see people as objects and tools. This makes you seem dispensable to them, and they know that they can find someone else to take advantage of.
The longer the narcissist is with someone, the more easily they are able to find flaws in them. These flaws make them feel better about themselves, which boosts their ego, making them think that they deserve someone even better – someone with fewer flaws.
It’s a vicious cycle for the narcissist, and no matter how great you are, you can never fully please them.