Unspoken Symptoms of PTSD: Migraines

There are a lot of symptoms that come along with having PTSD. Some are fairly common and well talked about, such as flashbacks and anxiety. But there are some symptoms that you may not even realize are part of your PTSD. If you suffer from headaches regularly, and if those headaches seem to get so bad that you can no longer see straight and you feel the need to vomit, PTSD might be the culprit for it.

 

This is especially true for men. Although women are actually three times more likely to have either migraines or PTSD than men, men are more likely to have both at the same time. Basically, the chances of migraines being caused by PTSD are greater in men than in women.

 

PTSD is serious stuff, and it not only effects just what happens inside your head. It can be physically painful to relive your trauma over and over again. Your thoughts begin to take over and you can feel the panic rising. Your muscles tense up, your blood pressure rises, and your body releases all kinds of chemicals associated with fight or flight mode. Any one of these things can cause a headache on their own, but when you combine them all together, you get the perfect recipe for a serious migraine.

 

If you’re having headaches due to your PTSD, learn what your triggers are so you can avoid them in the future. Practice good self-care, and even consider taking some medication to help alleviate a headache when you feel one coming on.

Unspoken Symptoms of PTSD: Hypervigilance

You’ve heard about the grand list of PTSD symptoms, but some of them can be overlooked or misunderstood. Have you ever heard of hypervigilance? Having hypervigilance means that you are constantly on the alert, looking for danger and waiting for the next attack to hit at any moment. People that are hypervigilant usually have a hard time relaxing, especially in public. They feel the need to always watch their backs and have a plan of escape or defense wherever they go. Does this sound like you? If you have PTSD, you likely have hypervigilance too.

 

Hypervigilance is a natural bodily response for having been exposed to dangerous environments for a long period of time, but always being on the lookout can be pretty exhausting. Your body can become tense from unease, creating stiff and sore muscles. Your lack of focus on anything else can also interfere with work and relationships with people. The stress and anxiety of it all can leave you feeling ready to collapse at any moment.

 

So what can you do to get some relief from hypervigilance? There are a few options available. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy is one that can help you learn to control the way you respond to the world around you, while Exposure Therapy is a great way to conquer your fears. Eye Movement Desensitization Therapy is yet another great form of therapy. If none of this enough, you can also consider taking different kinds of medications. If you want a more natural approach, you can try mindful training to help you be able to “live in the moment.”

 

PTSD is a difficult battle, but not an impossible one. There are lots of options out there to help you fight the symptoms and eventually overcome PTSD for good.

7 Celebrities Who Suffer From PTSD Too

Whether you’ve recently been diagnosed with PTSD or have had it for a long time, you don’t have to feel alone in this battle. In fact, PTSD is actually more common than you might think. It’s a mental health issue that can happen to anyone, and it doesn’t discriminate against white or black, man or woman, or rich or poor. Even celebrities can end up suffering from it. Here are 7 famous people who have been diagnosed with PTSD:

Mick Jagger – We all know this famous rock star from the Rolling Stones, but what many of us probably didn’t know is that he has experienced some pretty traumatic events in his life. It wasn’t until after he found out that his girlfriend, L’Wren Scott, committed suicide at the place where they were living, that he was diagnosed with PTSD.

Alanis Morissette – The song, “Jagged Little Pill” really took off when it came out. It made the music charts and had everyone singing along every time it came on the radio. But all that love and attention for the singer/songwriter Alanis Morissette was a lot to handle. You could say that her rise to fame with this song was a hard pill to swallow, and Alanis ended up developing PTSD from all the overstimulation and invasion of personal space that comes with becoming famous.

Whoopi Goldberg – All jokes aside, this comedienne faces challenges caused by her PTSD on a regular basis, but she doesn’t let it stop her. As a child, she witnessed two planes run into each other in the air and seeing something like that happen right before her eyes has created challenges that she still deals with today. Being a comedienne, actress, and talk show host, her job requires her to fly on planes. She has experienced numerous panic attacks when boarding planes, but she gets through it and continues to succeed.

Darrell Hammond – you might know Hammond from his hilarious Saturday Night Live skits and celebrity impressions, but you probably would have never guessed that he suffers from PTSD. As a child, Hammond was abused a lot, and when he got older, he abused drugs and alcohol and even practiced self harming. Fortunately, he has sobered up, gotten the treatment he needed, and is the comedian that we’ve all come to know and love.

Barbara Streisand – After a single mishap on stage where she forgot the lyrics to a song while singing in front of thousands in New York’s Central Park, iconic singer and actress, Barbara Streisand was stricken with PTSD. She was terrified of performing ever again, and only did so 30 years later, after having received both treatment and medication to help her out.

Monica Seles – During one of her tennis matches in 1993, Monica Seles was stabbed. You can imagine how traumatic this must’ve been for the athlete, and it took her a long time to work up the courage to get back on the tennis court. Even after something as big as this, Seles managed to take control of her PTSD and not let it control her.

Jacqueline Kennedy Onassis – When John F. Kennedy was shot, it was Jacqueline, the First Lady of the House, who was there beside him. She experienced the shooting first hand, more so than anyone else, and that kind of experience led her to live in fear. She was afraid that she would be targeted next, and she would obsess over the event, never able to get any sleep.

While each and every story is different, they all share a commonality, and that is the way in which they suffer. PTSD is real and it’s scary, but just like many celebrities, you too can overcome it and not allow PTSD to stop you from living your life and doing what you love.

Does a Narcissist Think they are Superior?

It’s hard to understand how a narcissist thinks and feels, and why they act the way they do. Narcissists don’t interact the same way as others, as most of their actions are influenced by their own desires and personal gain. They can come across as normal at first, but once you develop a closer relationship with them, you begin to see their true colors.

 

One of the things that are easy to notice about a narcissist is that they project an image of superiority. They act as though they are better than you and everyone else, and they want you to know it. They want you to be beholden to them, to follow their orders, and to let them be in charge of everything.

 

But while a narcissist might act like they are bigger than they really are, it might just be that all that acting is the result of an internal wound. Narcissists feel as though they need to be in control because they are insecure about themselves. Because of this, they end up putting on a mask and acting superior to you. They try to gain back control in their lives and make themselves feel better by taking it all out on you.

 

Don’t let them take advantage and walk all over you. Stand up for yourself and put an end to the abuse. It’s hard dealing with a narcissist, but once you can begin to understand them, it can make healing much easier for the both of you.

Alaska Earthquakes Shook More than the Earth

On November 30th, many of the residents of Alaska were struck by something so devastating that it will likely haunt them for the rest of their lives. Many of them were probably just on their way to work or enjoying their morning, expecting nothing unusual to happen. But you don’t receive warnings before a traumatic event.

 

At 8:29 am, an earthquake hit just 7 miles north of the city of Anchorage. But this wasn’t just any earthquake. It had a magnitude of 7.0 with a depth of 27 miles. And as if that weren’t bad enough, there have been over 1,400 recorded aftershocks so far, 17 which have had a magnitude greater than 4. Just like with life, it seems as though the trouble is never ending. Just when you think all the pain and struggling is over, something else hits, and it’s all you can do to not let it take you down. But there is hope as long as you keep holding on and moving forward.

 

There has been so much damage caused by all of these earthquakes. Roads and buildings have been destroyed, ruining Anchorage and devastating so many lives. It’s going to take a lot of time, effort, and help in order to restore the city and bring it back to its original grandeur.

 

But the damage done to the city is nothing compared to the damage done to the people who were involved. Many will go on to suffer from PTSD.

 

The survivors of the earthquakes have lost so much – some have lost their homes, their jobs, their possessions, and possibly even the lives of others. Those that survived or got out without injuries can begin to feel guilty when there are others that didn’t. That guilt can be a hard thing to live with.

 

In these places where earthquake aftershocks continue to hit like they are, it’s easy for people to find themselves constantly living in fear. They can’t seem to get a break and be able to catch a breath, and when they do, it’s taken away by yet another aftershock that they have to deal with. The ground has literally been taken out from under them in some places, making it difficult for them to stand up tall once again. With this fear and instability comes panic, setting them up for a lifetime of dealing with PTSD if they don’t get the help that they need.

 

Natural disasters can cause disasters in people’s well being, which is why it is our job to lend a hand and help in any way that we can. PTSD is a serious matter, and those that experience or are exposed to natural disasters are more likely to be affected. Getting professional help and learning healthy coping mechanisms can make a big difference when it comes to preventing and dealing with PTSD. If you know someone who was affected by the awful earthquakes in Alaska, give them all of your support and encourage them to seek help.

Why Narcissists Recycle Their Partners

As we’ve discussed before in another blog, narcissists are individuals who lack empathy and who think that the world should and does revolve around them.  So when you find yourself involved in a relationship with a narcissist, you can be sure that you will end up having to deal with very selfish treatment.

 

One common way narcissists act to feed their own self-centered needs is through partner recycling. You may have already experienced this behavior – the narcissist, who needs attention and excitement, decides that you aren’t good enough anymore, so they leave and find someone new. But then after a period of time, they become bored with their new partner so they begin calling you and wanting to make things work again. This recycling of old partners is something that many narcissists do, and for good reason.

 

Narcissists need everything to be about them and they lack even basic empathy and understanding of other people’s feelings.  Yet, even though narcissists believe they are the center of the universe and deserve only the best, they are also very insecure and afraid that they will fail and not be given the attention they need.

 

When these elements come together –  no empathy or concern about other people and personal insecurity – it creates a situation where the narcissist may cope by building a safety net. They are able to get the newness, excitement, and attention of beginning a new relationship, but they also have a person or people that they know are waiting on them and will feed their ego when they need it.  Out of this, many narcissists create a stable of lovers that they rotate through, recycling relationships as they become bored or need more attention.

 

If you’ve been in a relationship with a narcissist and find them coming back again, the best thing you can do is refuse them.  They haven’t “come to their senses” and realized how amazing you are. They are feeding their own ego by seeing how badly they can treat you and still have you there ready to forgive them and take them back.  Don’t let yourself get stuck in this unhealthy cycle. Set good boundaries and don’t be afraid to walk away.

Are you Facing a Flying Monkey?

You’ve finally managed to get out of a bad relationship with a narcissist. You’re finally starting to feel better and can actually work on boosting your self-esteem again. All the hard times are over now – or so it seems. As if dealing with a narcissist wasn’t bad enough, now you have to face their flying monkeys.

 

You might be wondering what in the world I’m talking about. Think of the Wicked Witch of the West in the Wizard of Oz. Instead of directly doing everything herself, the witch would send out flying monkeys to do all of her dirty work for her. Now the term “flying monkeys” has been picked up by psychologists and is what they call those who basically do all the deeds of the narcissist for them.

 

But why would someone want to act as a minion for a narcissist? Narcissists are very manipulative and good at turning things around to make them seem like the victim. The flying monkey might not even realize what they are doing at the time. They might be tricked into believing that they are simply helping a friend out. Just like the flying monkeys in the Wizard of Oz, they probably wish to be freed too, once they realize what is happening. So don’t blame the person acting as the flying monkey, blame the narcissist that is controlling them.

 

Flying monkeys can be manipulated into doing a variety of things to harm you. This includes spying, gossiping, and even coming at you directly. If you think you have a person or people acting as a flying monkey towards you, there are a few things that you can do.

 

If you believe that the person that is acting as a flying monkey is being controlled and manipulated, you can try simply talking to them. Explain the situation of how you were being abused by the narcissist, and that they don’t have to be controlled by them either. Let your voice be heard too, and let them hear both sides of the situation. Don’t get upset though if they get defensive. Chances are, they just aren’t ready to get help yet. Realizing that they are now being abused is something that they will have to come to on their own in order to receive help.

 

If you know you have flying monkeys spying and stalking your social media accounts, simply make your accounts private. If they are actively coming after you with messages, posts, or anything else, report it and block them for your own sake.

 

If you know people are gossiping about you, the best thing that you can do is keep your head up and don’t let it get to you. Dispel rumors that do come your way, but don’t make things worse by spreading some of your own about the other person.

 

Dealing with a narcissist is hard work, and it doesn’t help when it seems like the trouble just never goes away. But keep moving forward and don’t give up, because it all gets better in the long run.